Narcissistic men and women cannot sustain authentic relationships in marriages or as parents. They act out, having multiple affairs, mistresses, girlfriends, boyfriends, secretly on the side. They have no shame about their reprehensible, destructive behaviors. If they have power in the world and are venerated publicly as high level executives, part of the entertainment and social elite, they get away with it. These days, living in a narcissistic society, most people shrug about these matters. If someone is "very important" it doesn't matter what they do in their personal lives and some believe that they are above reproach because of their extraordinary success.
The narcissistic man or woman has a
severe personality disorder that is not going to change. There is no
motivation to become different since the narcissist believes that he is
perfect and every one else falls short. If the narcissist has a loyal
professional and social following, a source of constant narcissistic
supply, excuses will always be made for him/her despite the abominable
behavior toward spouse and children.
After causing horrific
trauma to a wife or husband and children who have been abandoned, he
moves on to re-invent himself and re-burnish his image. For the
narcissist, there are no genuine relationships. One person is
replaceable with another---one wife with another, one child or two
children with others. Some narcissists go on to produce children with
two three or even four other partners. It doesn't matter as long as he
is getting the adulation, praise, adoration that he needs and
maintaining the power and money that he holds on to and that defines
him/her as a person.
Study the narcissistic personality in-depth
so you don't get caught up in a partnership or marriage to one of these
individuals. I hear many stories of those who have had children with
narcissists and have gone through painful ongoing experiences, worked
through divorces that were very stressful and complex. I give those who
have weathered these storms great credit for their forbearance.
Remember to take good care of yourself. You are authentic. Seek those who are like you---authentic and compassionate.