There are excellent, dedicated physicians who work hard to keep their patients well. They are your partner in health. When a patient becomes ill, fine physicians go the distance to help you get well. I am not talking about most of our doctors in this article.
I am addressing narcissistic doctors who purposely go into specialties where they can gain the most prestige and make the most money. I hear from my readers about some of these individuals and the stories are disturbing. Some doctors over test patients and run up the bill on purpose. There are unnecessary medical procedures performed by narcissistic physicians that cost tremendous amounts of money and don't result in helping the patient to heal. Most people are still afraid to question a physician. They see him or her as the ultimate authority. My experience and that of others is that a fine doctor welcomes intelligent questions on the part of the patient. Becoming healthy again and staying healthy is a collaborative experience between doctor and patient. It is essential that the individual stays informed about his/her health matters.
Narcissistic doctors are going through the motions. They are completely self absorbed like all narcissists. Many of them are very smooth, highly confident, attractive and know how to win over their patients and maintain their trust. Some patients view doctors like mini gods. We can be grateful and very impressed by the skill and knowledge and training of a physician. The good and great ones deserve our respect and confidence in them.
Know what to watch for in narcissistic doctors:
Do you sense that the doctor has a money motive?
Is the physician disrespectful (putting you down, criticizing you) as a patient?
Is the physician forceful and do you get a sense that he/she is insisting on procedures that will not be helpful and could be harmful to you?
Does the physician invade your personal boundaries with intimate questions and sexual innuendos?
Does the doctor become highly defensive, angry even enraged when you ask him/her questions?
Does the physician talk about himself incessantly and his importance, prestige, life style, etc. instead of focusing on you and your medical issues?
Does the doctor make disparaging, cruel remarks about your appearance?
Does the doctor have an abrasive, rude, sadistic bedside manner. For example, I know of a hospital patient who was unceremoniously awakened in the middle of the night and told: "You have had a stroke" and then had the nerve to ask the patient how he was feeling. The narcissistic doctor's manner was brusque and cold. It frightened the patient and caused needless fear and distress.
There are excellent physicians who are not narcissists. Do your research and find doctors who are highly trained, professionally excellent, patient oriented and empathic. Visit my website:thenarcissistinyourlife.com
Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
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