Insatiable Greed-Psychological Emptiness--Hallmarks of the Narcissistic Personality

Greed cannot be permanently satiated. Narcissists are obsessed with what they want. they are in an ongoing cycle of desire or want, behavior that will get them to their goal, the attainment of their desires. They are temporarily satiated. Soon the fires of desire which have only been tamped down, arise high on the horizon and the narcissist is off on another quest. Narcissists are so self entitled that their greed is ravenous, a hunger that continues throughout their lives. Our narcissistic society rewards the greedy. If you become very successful without obeying the rules or the law, most people don't care. The narcissist carefully conceals the dirty tricks and treachery he/she used to stand  at the top tier. He is revered, given special privileges, venerated by many.

Those who live with him tell a very different story. His spouse and children get the brunt of narcissist's underside when the family is in private. The public image is off. The ugly underbelly, the bestial hateful side of the narcissist is exposed. Inside of these homes spouses and children cower. They are screamed at, intimidated, treated with both scorn and neglect, threatened, psychologically whipped (in some instances the whipping is physical).  

Beneath the rampant greed , creation of a perfect false image is a powerful unrelenting unconscious psychological emptiness that can never be filled. The internal life of the narcissist is bleak and shallow. He cannot go inside to find a calm essence, a loving heart, an abiding truth, a deep caring. All of these inner doors are closed to him. He is filled with unconscious self hatred which he constantly projects on to others, especially his spouse and children. In the work place, the narcissist seeks the vulnerable on whom he can eject his venom and threaten their careers.

Pathological greed and psychological emptiness are essential character traits of the narcissistic personality that will not change. Don't expend your energy and strength on trying to change this severe personality disorder.You are in charge of yourself. Learn about the narcissist in-depth, the personality disorder of our time. Visit my website:thenarcissistinyourlife.com

Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
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Narcissistic Greed-Narcissistic Emptiness

Narcissists are extraordinarily greedy. Greed is an extreme desire and pursuit to obtain more than what needs, especially with regard to material wealth. They are never satisfied with what they have and are very competitive with other narcissists. They always must be at the very pinnacle, the top of the mountain, the guy who takes home all of the marbles (even if he steals them from others). In our current narcissistic society narcissistic greed has become very acceptable to many people. In fact there are many individuals who look up to narcissists who continue to acquire more material possessions (that they don't need and will probably not use). High level narcissists surround themselves with a charmed circle of people who provide him/her with unending narcissistic supplies: praise, adoration, continuous kudos, even worship. These individuals are obsessively loyal to the narcissist as long as they can fuse with his grandiosity, extreme self entitlement and delusional world.

Deep inside the narcissist experiences himself/herself as psychologically empty. These powerful feelings are unconscious to the narcissist. The narcissist projects these vituperative feelings of self loathing on to others, particularly spouses, children and siblings. At the core the narcissist is full of self loathing, living as a false self, unable to be real, to reciprocate feelings of affection or love. Emotionally he is shallow and incapable of creating or sustaining any authentic human relationships. Raise as a false grandiose self, the narcissist is an empty shell, surrounded by an outer shell that is fraudulent, shallow and disingenuous. The narcissistic emptiness in many ways drives the narcissist's obsessive greed. Unconsciously feeling emotionally empty and unworthwhile, the narcissist is psychologically hungry for the narcissistic supplies that he voraciously needs. This includes finding and even possessing individuals who will adore and mirror him perfectly. Narcissists do not change. This is a very fixed personality disorder. Narcissistic greed will persist as long as the current society continues to reward pathological narcissism as it so handsomely does in our current societal climate.

Those who are not narcissists have access to gifts that are much more valuable: the capacity to give and receive love, deep empathy and implementation of ways to help others, a sense of deep inner peace, an authentic sense of self that is solid, steady and rich with integrity.  Visit my website: www.thenarcissistinyourlife.com 

Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
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Narcissistic Greed-Bottomless Pit

We are experiencing a series of narcissistic waves that are effecting the foundations of our society. In the last several decades there has been a tremendous shift in values and what is meant by leading a fulfilling and worthwhile life. More recently many people measure their success by the amount of wealth, material possessions, business and social connections they have and those top tier individuals with whom they have easy access.Many relationships are disingenuous and based on the crass principle of "What can you do for me.?' There is no human connection here, no empathy, no consideration for the needs of others.

The media entertainment culture has fueled these attitudes and normalized them. The goal of many of our young people is to be masters of the universe. They look to hedge fund managers who are making a billion dollars a year as their heroes and life models.

Many narcissists are addicted to material possessions. This obsession with the externals of life doesn't allow the time and energy to introspect. Besides the narcissist is incapable of focusing inside, to contemplate, to have personal insights.

Narcissist greed is  manifested in their raw competitiveness. The compare themselves with others to make sure that they have the best and the most. Some people make excuses for greedy narcissists saying: Oh, he just got another toy---a helicopter, a new beach house, a mega yacht, etc. Many loyal followers of narcissists express their glee at these over the top purchases: "Oh, Howard is just having a good time. He's deserves it. He entertains a lot. He's enjoys collecting expensive toys. Why shouldn't he have anything he wants." Beneath it all the psychological reality is that the narcissist is emotionally empty, a severely damaged individual. The narcissist leads a fraudulent life. He fools almost all others that he is genuine, charming, highly successful and affable. Deep within and out of his awareness, the narcissist is a bottomless psychological and emotional pit that cries up from the depths to be filled. Since he cannot be real and satisfy needs and wishes from inside himself, the narcissist spends his life restlessly searching for material possessions, adoring followers, positions of extraordinary power as an attempt to fill his psychological emptiness.

The narcissist is like a ravenous wild animal who stalks and hunts his prey, is satisfied temporarily and then must go back into the tall grasses to seek satisfaction once more. This eternal cycle of repetitive behavior will not stop. The narcissist is always hungry and the bottomless pit of greed waits for the next torturous round.

There are extraordinary human beings today who are not greedy, not narcissists, who share with others, who are generous and have open hearts. They are our rising heroes. Visit my website: http://www.thenarcissistinyourlife.com/

Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
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