Stop Playing the Role of Narcissistic Supply

A narcissistic supply feeds the narcissist's hungry ego. Narcissistic supplies come in many forms: praise, adulation, high social status, wealth, beauty, handsomeness, athletic prowess, celebrity. The narcissist chooses certain people to come into his/her life and act as ego boosting, narcissistic supplies. With this other individual at his side, he believes that his elaborate image will score even higher points in the world. The narcissists who succeed with money and power are highly prized by those in this present self-obsessed society. The media idolizes and reward narcissists as do large swaths of the business and professional world. If a narcissist is at a high enough level he or she can get away with almost anything.

The narcissist cannot have an authentic relationship with another human being. People to him are objects to be manipulated, seduced and exploited for their value to him. The narcissist perceived other individuals as part of him the will enhance and enrich his image and status in the world. Narcissists uses spouses, partners and their own children as supplies.

If you are picked by a narcissist to be his/her partner or spouse, it is vital to be aware that this person is incapable of having a genuine psychologically intimate relationship. Regardless of the persuasiveness of his act that gravitates you to him, the narcissist has no intention nor is he capable of sustaining a loving reciprocal relationship. He is a masterful actor and leads many to believe that he loves them deeply. But this is part of his elaborate act to maintain his control over you and to keep his ego supplies well stocked.

To protect yourself from the narcissist, learn about every detail of this personality disorder. If you have finally recognized that this individual is a narcissist and cannot truly love or appreciate who you are, distance yourself from this person. The best action is to sever this "relationship", deal with your painful feelings of sadness, regret and broken hopes and to move forward with your life rather than remain a living accoutrement of his/hers. The work of ending these relationships may be helped with high quality psychotherapy as well as healing modalities: gentle yoga, meditation, support groups, the deep caring of a few close friends. You deserve to lead your life as an individual who respects and values herself and is treated in this manner. You are unique and valuable. Get in touch with those facets of yourself. Give yourself credit from the journey you have made from playing the role of narcissistic supply to leading your life fully and freely as a separate authentic human being. Visit my website: www.thenarcissistinyourlife.com 

Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
Telephone Consultation: United States and International
Book: Freeing Yourself from the Narcissist in Your Life
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Email: lmlphd@thenarcissistinyourlife.com 

Narcissists Can't Have Real Relationships

Authentic relationships ask us to make an emotional and psychological investment in another person. They require that we are capable of empathy and have the capacity to put ourselves psychologically in their place. Narcissists are incapable of empathy. They can be very convincing that they care deeply about us but this is a well rehearsed act that the narcissist has perfected. A narcissist can be enthralled with someone but this doesn't last particularly when he/she discovers that you are no longer the source of his narcissistic supplies for praise, adulation, or in many cases monetary or societal supplies. Real relationships require commitment, loyalty and truth. The narcissist does not have these traits. The narcissist is psychologically empty inside. He/she is constantly hungering and seeking people and situations that will gratify his ego. Many are fooled and believe that they are "the one". The narcissist is parasitic, feeding off of others. When the individual source is all use up, he moves on to the next human supply. Narcissists do not change; they are fixed personality disorders. When we throw our destinies in with narcissists, we give part of our lives away to them.

Protect yourself from narcissistic abuse. You deserve to live fully, using your creative gifts, giving and receiving love, experiencing empathy from those who share your life. Learn about every facet of the narcissistic personality disorder. Visit my website: www.thenarcissistinyourlife.com

Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
Telephone Consultation: United States and International
Book: Freeing Yourself from the Narcissist in Your Life
Buy the book: amazon.com and amazon kindle edition
Email: lmlphd@thenarcissistinyourlife.com