When you meet a narcissist who fixates on you with fascination you feel like the most important person on the face of the earth. That's how good they are with a masterful act. Narcissists remind me of brilliant performance artists--quick change artists who change from one costume into another faster than the eye can see--illusionists. A German/Armenian duo, Sos and Victoria hold the Guinness Book of Records for this feat: 16 costume changes in 120 seconds.
When you are out of favor with the narcissist you go from:
Indispensable to Disposable
Perfect to Putrid
Beautiful to Repulsive
Bright to Dull
Charming and Magnetic to Thankless Witch (B----)
The narcissist becomes restless again for narcissistic supplies. He has found another partner---your replacement. He will perform a new act to a fan filled audience----They say: "Come to the Cabaret!" This is an illusion. The pain is not. It is very real. When narcissists discard people it can and will go beyond tolerable limits. They don't care whom they hurt or the extenuation of your suffering. They have neither conscience nor shame.
It is up to you to learn to identify in exquisite detail the narcissistic personality so you can recognize one very quickly and remove yourself from their psychologically toxicity. Assert yourself. Recognize and resonate with your own unique value.Renew yourself through a practice of meditation, gentle yoga, restorative yoga and modalities that will quiet and calm the mind, body and psyche. Learn about the narcissistic personality disorder. Visit my website: www.thenarcissistinyourlife.com
Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
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