Covert narcissists attire themselves in different camouflages. They are your psychological enemy if you marry them. Despite their pseudo humility or even fake holiness, inside they are narcissistic personalities. They method act the empathy superbly. They give you all of their attention and more when they are actively chasing you or want what you have. One of the most difficult CN's to recognize is the "saintly" one. (Those who are seeking God or trying to be better human beings through spiritual teachings are completely exempt from this post).
Many of the holy CN's are brainwashed and insist that you are a sinner. If they are your relatives this becomes intolerable. They tell you that you are going to hell if you don't believe the way they do. You are looked down upon. Holy covert narcissists know what is best for your soul. They never stop trying to save you. They riddle you with guilt. Growing up in a family of saintly CN's is particularly challenging. Children often feel guilty that they cannot come up to the moral level of their relatives.
Be sure you don't marry one of these pretenders. Highly spiritual people are nonjudgmental. They tend to their own souls and have compassion for you as a person. They wish you well and have respect for you, even if you are an atheist.
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Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
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