Narcissistic Spouse--Psychological Abuse Must Stop

Narcissistic spouses are known for taking their husbands or wives beyond the point of endurance. They don't care one whit if you are becoming emotionally fragile, have post traumatic stress, physical symptoms--headaches, gastrointestinal problems, bouts of debilitating depression, insomnia and hundreds of others disturbances. They live strictly for themselves. In fact if you go to them for mercy and tell them you are suffering they will tell you  any of the following: " you are weak and too sensitive", It's all in your mind" "your imagination is too vivid" "You're making it up to upset me" "You're a drama queen (or king)","you're mentally unbalanced" and innumerable labels and cruel retorts. How many times have you told yourself you can't take this abuse any longer. You're not sleeping; you are jumping with nerves every time you know you husband will be at home. You dread having to be near this person. You are always waiting for the next verbal assault--It can come any time of day or night. Some narcissistic spouses awaken their partners in the middle of the night and go on verbal rampages for hours nonstop.

A point of reckoning is to know through your research and insight that the person to whom you are married is a narcissistic personality. This individual is not going to change. You have suffered for too long and your quality of life, including your physical energy, mental focus, feelings of emotional security and concerns about your children are negatively effected by continuing in the marriage. The time has come and the decision is yours. You long to take back your own life, your own mind, your individual gifts and energies. You can decide how you want to live---starting this moment. Pay close attention to your inner self. You can leave the narcissist and lead the life that you deserve. You have that strength, faith and perseverance. To learn about the narcissistic personality in-depth, visit my website:thenarcissistinyourlife.com

Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
Telephone Consultation: International
Book: Freeing Yourself from the Narcissist in Your Life
Email: lmlphd@thenarcissistinyourlife.com 

Psychological Devastation One Narcissist Can Wreak

Narcissists cause multiple psychological train wrecks in the lives of others, particularly family members---spouses, ex-spouses, children, in-laws.Always on the hunt for narcissistic supplies which includes a feverish search for people they can exploit, the narcissist can deleteriously affect a wide swath of people including close family members, business and social circles. Exploitative, duplicitous, at times treacherous, highly manipulative, dangerously secretive, the narcissist never stops his hunt for the ultimate narcissistic supplies: praise, adulation, social status, wealth, business connections, spouses and partners that will enhance his/her image of perfection.

I have seen families decimated in the aftermath of the narcissist's vicious, repeated dark deeds. Having neither shame nor conscience, a narcissist, particularly a sociopathic narcissist thinks absolutely nothing of leaving an ex-spouse and his children with no financial support or security while he or she moves on with a new fresh partner to marry again and begin a new family. Narcissists don't stop. Just when you think that they have mellowed, changed or slowed down, they will surprise you with finding another way to obstruct your life. If you share custody with a narcissistic ex you understand how exhausting, anxiety provoking and exasperating, these individuals can be. They want everything for themselves. If they have to deplete psychologically, emotionally, mentally and physically in the the meantime, that is your problem. You are taking life too seriously. Narcissists will never take responsibility ever for the damage that they do. Never wait for an apology or reparations from them. They view themselves as perfect--You have the problem.

Become highly informed about the narcissistic personality. This is a powerful offensive to bring into your life. Today we are surrounded by narcissists. Much of society give them a wink and a nod. Often they are praised and emulated. It is time to become knowledgeable and assertive. You will become a master of this subject and narcissists will be quickly identified, dealt with and out of your life. Visit my website:www.thenarcissistinyourlife.com 

Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
Telephone Consultation: United States and International
Book: Freeing Yourself from the Narcissist in Your Life
Buy the book: amazon.com and amazon kindle edition
Email: lmlphd@thenarcissistinyourlife.com 

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               

Discover and Use Your Creative Gifts

So many women in particular (there are male victims as well who suffer horribly) are being psychologically and emotionally abused by narcissistic spouses. During marriages long and short the narcissist is the tyrannical figure in their lives. After all of the life stories I have heard and read I am still surprised at the extreme manipulation, exploitation and raw cruelty these spouses endure. Some of them have bought the narcissist's delusional dream and live in tandem with him, while their lives are being siphoned off. With the exposure of more specific information about the destructive sequelae of living with a narcissist, more women (and men) are waking up and realizing that they are entitled to lead a life to think their own thoughts, be at peace, imagine and dream freely and activate their creativity.

I recently watched video interviews of two of our greatest living suspense writers: Ruth Rendell and P.D. James. These are inspiring human beings. They have great talent but work at their craft with discipline, purpose and joy. Everyone is creative in a myriad of ways. Allow you mind to wander quietly and freely---What do you love to do--take photographs, uses pencils to draw, adore the colors of watercolors as they drip across a page, knit intricate stitches in rhythm, write in a private diary, create characters and stories that enter your imagination and spring to life, spend time close to the plants, bushes, flowers and trees outside, watch the skies at night and feel the planets and stars so close to you. There are innumerable ways to be creative; it is part of our nature. When you create, no one--not your parents of the past, your spouse of the present or anyone else can control you. You have moved to another level of consciousness and the power of the imagination is captivating you. In these moments, we are free of suffering, of what others expect us to be. We are our most authentic selves. Embrace these facets of yourself. They are gifts given to each human being. Visit my website: www.thenarcissistinyourlife.com 

Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
Telephone Consultation: United States and International
Book: Freeing Yourself from the Narcissist in Your Life
Buy the book: amazon.com and amazon kindle edition
Email: lmlphd@thenarcissistinyourlife.com