Covert narcissists are highly competitive in very sneaky ways. If you are a sibling, cousin, half brother or half sister of a covert narcissist it can be confusing due to their circuitous back and forth behavior and attitudes toward you. Covert narcissists have their roles down so masterfully that it is easy to slip back into trusting them. They effect a phenomenal replication of pseudo empathy. They may dramatically call to ask how you are and convincingly pretend to care. They don't.
Covert Narcissists are always playing the game of who's up and who's down. A competitive narcissistic relative will do everything he/she can to bring you down and keep you there. They call you from time to time to make sure that you are in the doldrums, that you are experiencing a very tough personal time. The narcissistic sibling or family member blames you for your misfortunes. You are weak; you made a lot of mistakes; you need to make of an effort and stop gripping. At the same time, they point out--working on your last nerve--that they have succeeded by working hard, being so smart. Part of the reason that they are doing so well is that some aspects of success are based on luck and the business and personal contacts a person has and uses. Covert narcissists cleverly name drop about all of the important people that they know and who surround their power circle.
Do you need someone in your life who thrashes you psychologically and then turns around with phony concern with how you are doing? This cruel act has worn thin. You don't need any sibling, cousin or another relative who keeps rubbing in your pain and cheer leading their superiority and success. You don't deserve this abusive treatment. Don't put up with it! Study the narcissistic personality in-depth. Appreciate your unique individuality and all of your creative gifts. Detach from these noxious tactics. To learn about every facet of narcissistic personality disorder, visit my website:thenarcissistinyourlife.com
Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
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