You deserve to keep yourself healthy, to be free of excess stress, to be able to relax, to think without interruption, to be treated with respect. If you are living with a narcissist this is not happening. You are in fight or flight mode day and night. You are constantly being interrupted by his (her) demands, threats, belittlings, swipes at your character, your looks, etc.
Your life is not your own when you share it with a narcissist. They are as demanding as a two year old having 24/7 tirades in a store, lying on the floor kicking and screaming. I know of narcissists who have put on these public displays. It is nauseating.
Take a good look at yourself. Appreciate who you are. The narcissist is not going to change---ever. Couples therapy does not work with these individuals because they are always right and you are always wrong.
Learn to take care of yourself. This may begin by thinking very carefully of severing your relationship permanently with the narcissist.
Develop healing practices--Eat balanced, healthy meals (slowly), exercise in the way that is best for you, do gentle healing movements like yoga with emphasis on the breath. Meditation for short periods of time can be very helpful in stilling the mind and helping to calm your nervous system.
It is time ---past time---- to pay attention to your needs, inspirations, creativity, new cycle of life that are coming your way. Learn to be kind to yourself. Pay attention to the wisest voice of all: Your Intuition.
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Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
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