Saturday, October 27, 2012

Sing to Your Own Tune Not the Narcissist's

We all have music inside of us. It may be a small voice that calls from inside that is barely heard. It may be a swelling sound like a river held back too long that is bursting to go over its banks. When we are little many of us sing to ourselves and if we are fortunate, others share their voices with us. Song has been with us for thousands of years. It is a part of our nature. We were meant to move to rhythm and to hum and sing. Listen to very small children and you know that is part of who we are.  When we sing and give power to our voices, we are whole and free.

Those who are tied to the narcissist in a charade marriage narrow their chances of becoming the person they were meant to be.  The narcissist demands mirroring of him/her alone. He is the master; you are the follower.
He is always right--impeccable. You make all the mistakes. Every fine idea or creative endeavor evolves out of him, even when its origin is yours. You can never win with a narcissist. They may create a comfortable lifestyle that is consistent with your external goals but where is the heart of the narcissist. It can't be found. Narcissists are masters of pseudo empathy and caring when they have to play the part but once the drama is over and they have gotten exactly what they wanted, they revert back to their fits of rage, recriminations, constant lies and ruthlessness.

If you have had more than enough and can hear your own song in your head and it is getting louder and your intuition is messaging you frequently, pay attention. You are being told to make a decision, to take a different road, to activate yourself fully as an individual without limitations.  We come to this earth in our present form once only. Make this one count. To learn about the narcissistic personality in-depth, visit my 

Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
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